“I’ve been called arrogant, egotistic, and stubborn, and told things like ‘You're being so picky and you won’t have any options later,’” one woman told BuzzFeed News.
“You’re not demure enough.”
“What's your height?"
“You're being so picky and you won’t have any options later.”
“You don’t need to talk about how much you work and about your work hours.”
“It’s not important that your partner’s politics have to align with yours.”
“You don’t know what you want.”
These are just some of the things several South Asian women say they have been told by their families and matchmakers who have tried to arrange their marriage with a series of prospective suitors.
Many of these attitudes are also reflected in Netflix’s new, popular reality show Indian Matchmaking, which follows Sima Taparia, a professional matchmaker from Mumbai, who finds marriageable partners for single Indian people in India and the US.
The show focuses on seven of Taparia’s approximately 500 clients — a mix of mostly upper-middle-class Indian Hindu millennials — who, as the show describes, include a “stubborn” Houston lawyer, a “picky Mumbai bachelor,” a “misunderstood” Morristown, NJ., event planner, and a “progressive” woman entrepreneur from Mumbai.